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Co-opting Dysphoria

Once again, we find bullies, narcissists, NPDs,1 sociopaths, and psychopaths interjecting themselves into the pain and dysphoria of others. The gay community has suffered these interlopers and agitators for years — these bully activists and extremists who flaunt and seek to impose their demands, “difference,” and frequent deviance on a co-opted group as they — the narcissists — pursue endless, narcissistic supply.2 Such narcissists care nothing for the genuine dysphoria of honest, struggling souls. They care for nothing but their own supply and have found another nigh perfect cover for endless, “justified” drama and the infinite supply they crave. But their faux-campaign of pretending to promote (i.e., force) acceptance of the marginalized has horribly distorted who the genuine gender-dysphorics are. Many narcissists present whatever false persona they imagine will get the greatest attention and that will excuse or cover their predilection for manipulation, control, and excess. They have an uncanny ability to ferret out issues they can co-opt. Then, they throw everyone under the phobic bus (including other trans people) who do not give the required affirmation, admiration, validation — the requisite “narcissistic supply” —  to their narrative. With an aggressive pursuit of publicity, the infiltrators tar the co-opted community with one brush of absurd claims, gas-lighting, and frequent demonstrative deviance which is offensive to many dysphorics for whom the narcissists pretend to campaign.

The narcissists also have a predatory sense of those who can be empathed or suckered3 into their faux narrative, pretense, and absurdities. As we have seen, doctors, lawyers, judges, professors, politicians, right down to the common Joe and Jane on the street have been seduced into being “supply” and also, into assuming the role of “flying monkeys.”4 It’s all rather stunning that things have come this far without the “woke” awakening to the false personas of the “tans”-extremists and the self-deception inherent in participatory pathology.

So, if you think you know what trans is through legacy media reports and through extremist and “monkey” posturing,, try listening to this:

The Truth About Trans Kids, From Trans Adults
(Blaire White | 32:21 min.) at
Caution: Some profanity.

The faux in phobic is the lie that narcissists and their captured servitors demand of everyone. If we took a survey, we would find that most gay and trans persons just want to live their lives without the publicity and drama that narcissistic infiltrators orchestrate and crave. Most gay and trans are not into bullying, compelled speech, victim-status, blame, mockery, obsessive supply, and all the extremist demands, absurdities, and excesses of the narcissists with their faux-personas. Most gay and trans utterly reject the notion that: “You must do, say, agree with, (etc.) what the trans demand or you are to blame for their suicide.” Suicide is always tragic, but to weaponize it, is toxic, abusive, and unconscionable. 

Please, people, take the time to study this out,5 because narcissism has become an escalating mental and social contagion. Compare the narratives and demands of the “alphabet” infiltrators and their servitors with the grandiose, malignant, or communal pathologies of narcissism. (There are several references in the footnotes and thousands online.) Reflect on the role you are playing: are you supporting the faux? spreading the narcissistic infection? perpetuating narcissistic abuse6? or do you,  even as a gay or trans person, have the courage to publicly reject the absurdities, extremes, and co-optation?

The pursuit of narcissistic supply and the infliction of narcissistic abuse are not healthy and never will be, not even for an alleged good cause.

1. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental disorder characterized by a life-long pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a diminished ability to empathize with others’ feelings. Narcissistic personality disorder is one of the sub-types of the broader category known as personality disorders.[1][2] It is often comorbid with other mental disorders and associated with significant functional impairment and psychosocial disability.
2. Narcissistic Supply: In psychoanalytic theory, narcissistic supply is a pathological or excessive need for attention or admiration from codependents, or such a need in the orally fixated, that does not take into account the feelings, opinions or preferences of other people[citation needed].
The concept was introduced by Otto Fenichel in 1938, to describe a type of admiration, interpersonal support or sustenance drawn by an individual from his or her environment and essential to their self-esteem.] …
3. ● 8 Cues Narcissists Watch For As They Seek Narcissistic Supply (Surviving Narcissism | Aug 20, 2020 | Time 14:25) at
    ● 10 Behaviors That Give Supply To A Narcissist (Surviving Narcissism | Feb 18,2021 | Time 13:59) at
    ● 6 Types of People Who Attract Narcissists (WATCH OUT!) (Psychology Element | Jan 30, 2022 | Time 9:00 min. ) at
4. ● Are You a Narcissist’s Flying Monkey? |
    ● Narcissists and Their Flying Monkeys
    ● Are Flying Monkeys Also Narcissists Or Just Cowards? (Surviving Narcissism | Mar 31, 2022 | Time 13:16) at
    ● Narcissists And Their Flying Monkeys (Surviving Narcissism | Oct. 4, 2018 | 12:10 min.) at
5. ●  From
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) describes NPD as possessing at least five of the following nine criteria.[2]
      ▪ A grandiose sense of self-importance
      ▪ Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
      ▪ Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
      ▪ Requiring excessive admiration
      ▪ A sense of entitlement (unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations)
      ▪ Being interpersonally exploitative (taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends)
      ▪ Lacking empathy (unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others)
      ▪ Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them
      ▪ Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
   ●   From
    [Ten] Narcissistic Personality Disorder Symptoms
       ▪ Symptom #1: Lacking Empathy
       ▪ Symptom #2: Conversation Hogger
Narcissists often want to dominate the conversation, and they often want the conversation to be about their favourite subject: themselves. … They will also have no problem with interrupting a conversation and change it to their liking. // What’s more is that the narcissist does not like to be corrected in a conversation. They expect you to agree with them all the time, and they don’t like any suggestion of disagreement. Don’t agree with what they are saying and you can expect to be rebuked, corrected and even completely ignored.
     ▪ Symptom #3: Self-Importance
… Narcissists tend to feel as though they deserve special treatment. They expect others to treat them like royalty but see no reason why they should do the same in return.
     ▪ Symptom #4: False Image Projection
The narcissist feels it is important to always give others the impression that they are highly successful [intelligent, smart, special, etc.]. 
     ▪ Symptom #5: Rule Breaking
Narcissists tend to think that they are above ‘normal’ people and this includes the rules that others are expected to adhere to. This includes social rules such as queuing and waiting for your turn as the narcissist seems to think such rules are in place only for other people to abide by. //More serious rules, such as speed limits, are also often broken. … You can also expect them to try and have others agree to exclude them from the rules. They like to feel assured that they are above such ‘petty’ inconveniences.
     ▪ Symptom #6: Strives For Perfection
The narcissist needs everything to be perfect, all of the time.
     ▪ Symptom #7: Charming
A narcissist will often know how to turn on the charm when it suits them. 
     ▪ Symptom #8: Manipulation
A narcissist will have little problem in manipulating peoples’ thoughts and emotions to suit their needs. They will gladly try and influence other peoples’ decisions and lives with the sole purpose of benefiting themselves. They will gladly use emotional blackmail to manipulate people into doing what they want.
     ▪ Symptom #9: Desire For Control
The narcissist will usually have a strong desire to be in complete control.
     ▪ Symptom #10: Blame
When everything is going well, the narcissist is more than happy to take the plaudits. … // The narcissistic will look to blame what they can, or who they can, when things are not going well.
6. Narcissistic Abuse:
    ● The Long Term Impact Of Narcissistic Abuse (Surviving Narcissism | Mar 21, 2022 | Time 14:16) at
    ● Signs You are Victim of Narcissistic Abuse, Not Common Abuse (Stress, Depression Management Webinar) (Prof. Sam Vaknin | Oct 15, 2020 | Time 16:11) at
    ● Individuation And True Healing From Narcissistic Abuse | Sam Vaknin Richard Grannon Conversation ( Richard Grannon | Feb 15, 2022 | Time 1:14:45) at
    ●  9 different ways narcissists lash out at you (Dr. Ramani | 12:07 min.) at